Most of us are pretty stupid when it comes to dating. We’re so afraid of getting hurt that we put up fronts, defences, tests, and issues which amount to an incredible amount of energy invested only to result in us never getting what we truly want – someone who cares and loves us for who we are. Someone who wants …
Authentic Expression, Communication, and Vulnerability – Are You Saying What You Really Feel, Think, and Want?
In beginning to read Brené Brown’s book Daring Greatly, I can already tell I’m going to put it in my top reads. The centric focus is the concept of vulnerability and how it is the true measure of the courage a person has. By vulnerability, Brown means expressing yourself without a filter as you truly desire, whether positive or negative, …
The Avoider Mentality and the Fear of Intimacy
The insecurity and unknown burrows into your brain like a parasite, constantly clawing at you and never relenting. You hate the feelings of the unknown that cause the tightness in your chest, that choke your throat. You try to speak to them but it never comes out right, it never comes out as the way that you think it should …
Fear of the Unknown, Your Mind, and “The Now”
Your mind hates not knowing. Your mind fears the unknown and loves the familiar. It loves knowing exactly what will happen, when, and will engage in self-sabotaging behaviors in ORDER to get what has happened before so it that much more familiar and re-inforce what it knows. It will make you assume what happened before in a similar situation will …
Approach Anxiety and Bitch Butterflies
To all men (and perhaps some women out there): You see them across the room. They look so attractive. Who are they? Are they friendly? Interested in who I am? Would they be interested in getting to know me? Are they just going to reject me? I don’t think I want to do it. No I want to go talk …