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The 3 Types Of Self-Improvement And How To Decide Which Is Best For You

Noam LightstoneSelf-Improvement Leave a Comment

In my last post I talked about how you need to watch out for self-improvement “gurus” who don’t show you their flaws or the entire picture  – they promise you the dream girl/guy and the business without talking about their struggles or issues. But further within self-improvement I’ve seen a pattern of advice which I divide into 3 categories. Depending …

acceptance

Acceptance: How To Love Yourself And Have Others Love You

Noam LightstoneDating And Relationships 1 Comment

“I accept you.” There’s a sickness in our culture and society today. About shame. About judgement. About how the billboards portray perfection, no acne, no blemishes, no emotional issues. Everybody is crystal clear and smiling all the time, like the light shooting through a perfect prism. Rainbows and puppies and all that. It’s bullshit nonsense. Acceptance: Nobody Is Perfect – …

Defences

Noam LightstonePsychology 7 Comments

Learned and born from painful memories of the past throughout our lives, defences are meant to keep us safe from further traumas. Sometimes they succeed, undoubtedly. But they also accomplish a wide range of side items most do not recognize. They prevent intimacy, keep us isolated, and can lead to a cycle of continual negative feelings. They build self-imposed walls. …