3 Coaching Techniques Life Coaches and Mentors Use to Help You Reach Your Goals

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While reaching goals is good for your self-esteem, goals don’t exist so that we can feel good about ourselves. Humans didn’t invent goal setting simply to receive gold medals, a pat on the back, or bullet points on our resumes. Those are awesome benefits of successfully reaching goals, but they are not the main reason people work so hard to …


3 Reasons Why Men Have a Fear of Relationships and Intimacy (…and What You can Do about It)

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Why do men have a fear of relationships and intimacy? This is at the core of a lot of the questions I get asked. The problem is, us guys aren’t even aware of the fear most of the time…until it’s too late. We either go through life never experiencing the opportunities and connections available to us, our girlfriends or wives …


Mindset Mastery: How to Program Yourself to Be More Confident, Productive, and Successful

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Your thoughts are the only thing you have power over. You can take control of them and use them to build yourself up, connect with other people, and achieve success in life… Or you can ignore them and continue to struggle with low self-confidence, poor productivity, and unnecessary suffering. In this interview, 6-time #1 bestselling author, David de las Morenas, …


Your Avoidant Partner: 7 Questions to See If It’s Time to Leave

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One of the most common reader questions I get is someone asking if they should stay with their avoidant partner. I mean it’s a crappy feeling isn’t it: You really like or love the person and do care about them. But, you’ve got your own needs to look out for and deserve to be happy. You deserve to be with …

How to Systematically Face Your Fears with This Unstoppable Habit Stack (Guest Post at Develop Good Habits)

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There are tons of articles out there about how to face your fears. The problem is that they either just pump you up and give you motivation with no information on what to do… Or, the information doesn’t take into account drilling down to the root of your emotional motivations which can give you UNLIMITED power to push through whatever’s …


10 Steps to Overcome Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD) and the Avoider Mentality

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I was reflecting back on the past few years and how my avoider tendencies and issues with avoidant personality disorder still crop up from time to time. But the difference is that now I’m aware of them I can usually push through them. There are things I was EXTREMELY uncomfortable with that I’m now very open to — the biggest thing …