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3 Reasons Why Men Have a Fear of Relationships and Intimacy (…and What You can Do about It)

Noam Lightstone The Avoider Mentality, Fear of Intimacy, and Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD) 0 Comments

Why do men have a fear of relationships and intimacy? This is at the core of a lot of the questions I get asked. The problem is, us guys aren’t even aware of the fear most of the time…until it’s too late. We either go through life never experiencing the opportunities and connections available to us, our girlfriends or wives …

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7 Questions That Show You If It’s Time to Leave Your Avoidant Partner

Noam Lightstone The Avoider Mentality, Fear of Intimacy, and Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD) 2 Comments

One of the most common reader questions I get is someone asking if they should stay with their partners who they think are avoidant or avoiders. I mean it’s a crappy feeling isn’t it: You really like or love the person and do care about them. But, you’ve got your own needs to look out for and deserve to be …

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10 Steps to Overcome Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD) and the Avoider Mentality

Noam Lightstone The Avoider Mentality, Fear of Intimacy, and Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD) 0 Comments

I was reflecting back on the past few years and how my avoider tendencies and issues with avoidant personality disorder still crop up from time to time. But the difference is that now I’m aware of them I can usually push through them. There are things I was EXTREMELY uncomfortable with that I’m now very open to — the biggest thing …

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How The Fear of Intimacy Sabotages Your Dating Life – The Avoider Mentality (Guest Post at PostGradCasanova)

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I wrote about how the avoider mentality and the fear of intimacy hurts men, 5 reasons why you might suffer from the avoider mentality, and a 3-step action plan to get over it over at PostGradCasanova: What is the avoider mentality? Well as much as it might feel weird to admit, and as supposedly un-masculine as it seems, us guys WANT …

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How to Overcome the Avoider Mentality Now Available!

Noam Lightstone The Avoider Mentality, Fear of Intimacy, and Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD) 2 Comments

Check out How to Overcome the Avoider Mentality here. ——————————————– You know, there was a time when I thought that connecting with people, dating, and relationships were a waste of time? I would have said “If I go on a date and stay out late, I might not be productive the next morning. My work is super important. I don’t …

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Here’s How to Quickly Find out If You’re an Avoider: Take the Quiz

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The avoider mentality makes you crave intimacy, relationships, and closeness… Yet at the same time be deathly afraid of it. There are several common actions, beliefs, and defenses avoiders employ to stay away from other people, connection opportunities, and to defend themselves from possible rejection and judgement. Take this avoidant attachment quiz to find out how much you display symptoms of …