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How to Love Yourself: The Step-by-Step Guide

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I think you and I can both agree that learning how to love yourself is HARD: It seems like everyone ELSE has it figured out. Everyone ELSE is smiling, laughing, and building amazing lives. And it makes you feel like you’re falling behind. How do you learn how to love yourself when you don’t know how? Maybe you’re like me, …

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Avoidant Personality Disorder Treatment: The 5-Step Plan

Noam Lightstone The Avoider Mentality, Fear of Intimacy, and Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD) 2 Comments

If you’ve searched online for avoidant personality disorder treatment (AvPD), you might feel down because all you find are articles saying that, “There is no treatment for AvPD.” That’s not true: If you’re asking is avoidant personality disorder curable, I’m here to tell you that AvPD is not something you have to live with forever. All you need is the …

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3 Reasons Why Men Have a Fear of Relationships and Intimacy (…and What You can Do about It)

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Why do men have a fear of relationships and intimacy? This is at the core of a lot of the questions I get asked. The problem is, us guys aren’t even aware of the fear most of the time…until it’s too late. We either go through life never experiencing the opportunities and connections available to us, our girlfriends or wives …

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Your Avoidant Partner: 7 Questions to See If It’s Time to Leave

Noam Lightstone The Avoider Mentality, Fear of Intimacy, and Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD) 2 Comments

One of the most common reader questions I get is someone asking if they should stay with their avoidant partner. I mean it’s a crappy feeling isn’t it: You really like or love the person and do care about them. But, you’ve got your own needs to look out for and deserve to be happy. You deserve to be with …

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10 Steps to Overcome Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD) and the Avoider Mentality

Noam Lightstone The Avoider Mentality, Fear of Intimacy, and Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD) 2 Comments

I was reflecting back on the past few years and how my avoider tendencies and issues with avoidant personality disorder still crop up from time to time. But the difference is that now I’m aware of them I can usually push through them. There are things I was EXTREMELY uncomfortable with that I’m now very open to — the biggest thing …

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How The Fear of Intimacy Sabotages Your Dating Life – The Avoider Mentality (Guest Post at PostGradCasanova)

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I wrote about how the avoider mentality and the fear of intimacy hurts men, 5 reasons why you might suffer from the avoider mentality, and a 3-step action plan to get over it over at PostGradCasanova: What is the avoider mentality? Well as much as it might feel weird to admit, and as supposedly un-masculine as it seems, us guys WANT …