How The Fear of Intimacy Sabotages Your Dating Life – The Avoider Mentality (Guest Post at PostGradCasanova)

Noam Lightstone The Avoider Mentality, Fear of Intimacy, and Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD) Leave a Comment

I wrote about how the avoider mentality and the fear of intimacy hurts men, 5 reasons why you might suffer from the avoider mentality, and a 3-step action plan to get over it over at PostGradCasanova:

What is the avoider mentality?

Well as much as it might feel weird to admit, and as supposedly un-masculine as it seems, us guys WANT intimacy and connection.

It’s a human need and there’s nothing wrong with it: It feels nice to be understood and heard by people and to have memorable experiences with women.

But do you ever hear yourself saying:

“I don’t have enough time.”

“My logistics aren’t right.”

“That girl is too stuck up for me.”

These excuses are all a load of BS…

They’re all logical rationalizations for your fear…

They come from being scared of relationships and women (yes those small, cute, creatures) in general.

But here’s the problem: you’re missing out on powerful connections, unique moments in your life, and a great deal of healing when you do stuff like this.

It’s the reason you’re jealous of your friends, why you feel sad when you see couples, and why you get down on yourself.

It’s all linked to something called the avoider mentality and your fear of intimacy.

In this article, I’ll give you a glimpse as to why this is happening to you, and what you can do about it to move forward…

Click here to read the full article.

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