The Curse of Perfectionism

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Most people consider perfectionism to be a desirable trait. As a perfectionist you are sought after for being attentive to detail, analytical, always trying to do the absolute best, never quitting, never stopping, and making sure everything is of tip-top quality. No stone is left un-turned. No negatives are allowed. Everything must be absolutely amazing! I think you can tell …

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The Avoider Mentality and the Fear of Intimacy

Noam Lightstone The Avoider Mentality, Fear of Intimacy, and Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD) 174 Comments

The insecurity and unknown burrows into your brain like a parasite, constantly clawing at you and never relenting. You hate the feelings of the unknown that cause the tightness in your chest, that choke your throat. You try to speak to them but it never comes out right, it never comes out as the way that you think it should …

What’s Your Laycount, Bro?

Noam Lightstone Life Lessons And Experiments 4 Comments

What’s your number? Your count? How many lays? How many dragons have you slayed?   How many women have you been with?   For some reason this number will always be at in the subconscious of how men are judged. No matter what, it seems that we as men regard this number quite highly no matter where our main interests …

A Breakdown of Bipolar Disorder

Michael Mitchell Psychology 9 Comments

This is the first guest post at Light Way of Thinking, written by my friend, Mike Mitchell. Mike is a charismatic guy who surprised me when he mentioned he suffers from bipolar mood disorder. I asked him to talk about what it’s like to live with bipolar on a daily basis.   Having a bipolar mood disorder (BPD) is not …

Fear of the Unknown, Your Mind, and “The Now”

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Your mind hates not knowing. Your mind fears the unknown and loves the familiar. It loves knowing exactly what will happen, when, and will self-sabotage in ORDER to get what has happened before so it that much more familiar and re-inforce what it knows. It will make you assume what happened before in a similar situation will happen again, like …

Defences

Noam Lightstone Psychology 7 Comments

Learned and born from painful memories of the past throughout our lives, defences are meant to keep us safe from further traumas. Sometimes they succeed, undoubtedly. But they also accomplish a wide range of side items most do not recognize. They prevent intimacy, keep us isolated, and can lead to a cycle of continual negative feelings. They build self-imposed walls. …