Authentic Expression, Communication, and Vulnerability – Are You Saying What You Really Feel, Think, and Want?

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In beginning to read Brené Brown’s book Daring Greatly, I can already tell I’m going to put it in my top reads. The centric focus is the concept of vulnerability and how it is the true measure of the courage a person has. By vulnerability, Brown means expressing yourself without a filter as you truly desire, whether positive or negative, …

The Curse of Perfectionism

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Most people consider perfectionism to be a desirable trait. As a perfectionist you are sought after for being attentive to detail, analytical, always trying to do the absolute best, never quitting, never stopping, and making sure everything is of tip-top quality. No stone is left un-turned. No negatives are allowed. Everything must be absolutely amazing! I think you can tell …

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The Avoider Mentality and the Fear of Intimacy

Noam Lightstone The Avoider Mentality, Fear of Intimacy, and Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD) 165 Comments

The insecurity and unknown burrows into your brain like a parasite, constantly clawing at you and never relenting. You hate the feelings of the unknown that cause the tightness in your chest, that choke your throat. You try to speak to them but it never comes out right, it never comes out as the way that you think it should …

Defences

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Learned and born from painful memories of the past throughout our lives, defences are meant to keep us safe from further traumas. Sometimes they succeed, undoubtedly. But they also accomplish a wide range of side items most do not recognize. They prevent intimacy, keep us isolated, and can lead to a cycle of continual negative feelings. They build self-imposed walls. …